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How to Program Yourself for an Amazing Relationship

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Everybody wants a meaningful and lasting relationship. So, why does there seem to be such a scarcity of great relationships these days? Is there some way that we could be better prepared before we take a big relationship plunge? While every relationship has its own unique complexities, I believe that what we bring into a relationship emotionally is crucial to the success of that relationship. Too many people make a commitment to another person without being emotionally aligned with the reality of that commitment. They are still …

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Another Splitting Post

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I have written about 8-10 “splitting” posts. Here is one that was requested. I was in a long-term relationship that I’ve written about on here. We were in a 4 year relationship and it was a pretty nice relationship but … Continue reading →

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Comparing Yourself to Others – Can It Ever Be Helpful?

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From a parent telling us we have been better behaved than a sibling, to a teacher who keeps a chart with students’ names and gold stars, we are taught the idea of comparing  from very young. In psychology, the human drive to compare ourselves to others is called “social comparison theory”. Social comparison theory The theory …

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Toughen up

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“Everyone has a plan, until they get punched in the face.” – Mike Tyson Just how adaptable are you?  Circumstances can change in a heartbeat.  What have you done to anticipate, or avoid, or adjust when chaos shows up?  How will you react if the rug gets pulled out from underneath your nice tidy life, and you’re now flat on the floor?  Will you get up, or just lie there waiting for the 10 count? A creative dose of positive, proactive paranoia can help.   Knowing your alternatives and workable next steps – Plan B – is always a good idea. Think.  Think ahead.  Toughen up.  Fine tune your resiliency.  Learn to roll with the …