“Here’s to making your life a labor of love.” Design a life you love. Not one that conforms to the expectations of others, or fits within some regimented job description. Not one that must fit within social controls. Let it be one you create, one that reflects you. Find a challenge that takes you in the direction of your desires. Get in the flow. Just go with it rather than resist. Let it become your labor of love. – We’ve…
Resolving Our Anger At Narcissists
From the comments here and in email, I’ve published an email and answer to resolving anger at a narcissist ex. https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/getting-back-out-there/201509/resolving-our-anger-narcissists
Create rather than just receive
“Abundance is not about providing everyone on the planet with a life of luxury.” – Peter Diamandis Abundance is about a life of possibility. Unlimited possibility – living as fully and deeply as you can dream. Money and material things come and go and sometimes come back again. Possibility is the endless …
TRUST – Is it Given or is it Earned?
Trust. Some would say its an emotion while others may say its a logical reference in how we feel towards another person. Then some would say it is both. But what and where does it actually stem from. When we meet someone new some people will use their first impression of that person as their directive to trust that person or not. No doubt sometimes those first impression are very accurate. We tend not to trust people right away. Then there is the other side to that. We may think that someone is not to be trusted or they seem unpleasant when in reality, this person has just lost a loved one, or perhaps they are having financial problems or someone just robbed …
A Personality Disorder Diagnosis – Helpful, or a Trap?
First, what are personality disorders? Personality disorders are labels created by mental health professionals to describe groups of people with ways of thinking, behaving, and seeing the world that do not fit the societal norm. A person seen as having a personality disorder has longstanding challenges with relating to other people and can find it
Quotes of Wisdom: Buddha on Truth
The Truth is not arbitrary or a matter of opinion, but can be investigated, ?and those who earnestly search for the Truth will find It. The Truth is? hidden to the blind, but he who has the mental eye sees the Truth. ~ Buddha Related posts: Christmas Message From The Buddha
… because it defines you
“Do something because it defines you.” Not because someone is pushing your buttons. Not because of thoughtless pressure and mindless obligation imposed by others. You’re the one who has to look in the mirror and see who’s looking back. Do what you do because it’s an expression of you. – We’ve been working on a new website! Whenever we read these posts, we’re inspired to write our own private thoughts. Now
Self-Esteem, Your Response to Self-Image
We all have a certain image of ourselves. This mental image is based on our personal assessment of our abilities, looks, intelligence, popularity and any number of other personal qualities. Our emotional evaluation of that image will determine our level of self-esteem. Even though we tend to think that our self-image is accurate and based on reality, it’s not. People rarely see themselves objectively…
Why Spiritual Awakening Can Be so Uncomfortable
I've talked about a lot of the discomforts and pains that can come up on this blog many times before. As I've often said, you can feel discomfort in any part of your body or energy field. All of you is embraced by a spiritual awakening. Where you are in resistance to that embrace and to your own divine energy is where you will experience pain.One point that I haven't…
Why Can’t I Just Eat Healthy? The Psychology of Food Choices
Wellbeing is the buzz word in psychology lately, with the connection between physical and mental health increasingly made. Healthy eating is an obvious part of the self-care equation, and most of us know what that involves. So why do so many of us struggle to make healthy food choices despite knowing how to eat well? Are you using …
Are you committed?
“It’s easy to be passionate about the stuff that’s working out.” – Scott Adams What about the stuff that’s hard? What about the stuff in your zone that’s not a sure thing, that challenges you to extend yourself, accept the risk of failure, and give it unrelenting, focused effort? Anyone can get excited about the easy. Taking on what’s difficult is left to the few – those who are committed. Are you committed? – We’ve been working on a new website! Whenever we read these posts, we’re inspired to write our own private thoughts. Now you can write your own private thoughts at 130…
GPYB Book 3
I am working on a possible sequel to GPYB which is expounding on the topics in there (rather than GBOT which is for when you are ready to learn about new and loving relationships). It’s somewhat of an extension of … Continue reading →
You can’t edit a blank page
“Do a bad first draft.” Because you can’t edit a blank page. Until you’re ready to fail, you’re not ready to excel. Resist the subversive force of the enemy – perfectionism. Embrace imperfection. Ignore the voice of your inner critic. Move forward fearlessly. It is, after all, your wonderful life. – We’ve been working on a new website! Whenever we read these posts, we’re inspired to write our own private thoughts. Now you can write your own private thoughts at 130words.com. It’s easy. It’s private. It’s free. Try
Finding the Wisdom to Unlock Your Full Potential
Every speck of scientific research on the subject of human potential says that we all have much more potential power and ability than we are currently using. On some level I think we all probably realize, or at least suspect, that we have massive potential. The problem is, realizing that you have…
Affirming Platitudes
Every now and again, we publish the GPYB Platitudes. For those who struggle with affirmations and positive statements, here are some to memorize and remember as you move about your days and nights. These are the top 13. They began … Continue reading →
How to Exercise More (Even if You You Are Depressed)
How necessary is exercise for your mental wellbeing? Very. Research increasingly shows that exercise can do wonders, including one study finding that it can have as much of an effect on depression as antidepressants. (For more on this read our piece, Exercise and Depression). And yet for many of us it’s a challenge to make …
Don’t get left behind
“Beware of your brittle dependence on safety.” What seems safe today can be dangerous tomorrow. Too often we plant ourselves in a virtual safe zone – our refuge from risk. And too often that refuge starts to control our lives. It becomes a barrier to discovery and possibility. It becomes our self-designed prison cell. Ultimately safety fails us. Because the world keeps changing, keeps moving forward, and we get left behind. Don’t get left behind. Is it time to take a risk? – We’ve been working on a new website! Whenever we read these posts, we’re inspired to write our own private thoughts. Now you can write your own private thoughts at 130words.com. It’s easy. It’s private. It’s free. Try…
Has God Turned His Back on You?
One of the powerful and powerfully uncomfortable feelings that some people have during an awakening is the feeling that God has turned his back on them (Please understand that "his" is a conceit to English language–I don't believe in any gender for God). It typically comes after the bliss stage of awakening. People tend to crash land into their issues, and …
Passive-Aggressive People (or “Why, Yes, You Make Me Crazy!”)
Requested Repost:Passive Aggressive Personalities We’ve talked lately about the over-the-top abusers and cheaters. Now to turn to those who are underhandedly crazy making…the passive aggressive. The PA does not punch you in the face. The PA makes you want to … Continue reading →
What is Schizoaffective Disorder?
Schizoaffective disorder is a condition that is best described as a mixture of schizophrenic symptoms, like hallucinations, and a mood disorder like mania, where your behaviour is overactive and excited. Because this condition includes similar symptoms to other disorders, namely schizophrenia and bipolar disorder, it is far less understood and less clearly defined. How Common …
Enlightening Articles: 10 Things The Stoics Can Teach You About Being A Happier Person
After the death of Alexander the Great in 323 BC, his giant empire broke into pieces and descended into a long period of political turmoil with rulers constantly jockying for power. This period, known as the Hellenistic Age, saw the rise of multiple schools of philosophy, all of which had at their core the task … Related posts: Wisdom Books: Discourses of Epictetus Stoic Advice from Epictetus on the Art of Living – Part 1 Use Stoic
Get coachable
“Get coachable.” It matters what you practice. There is such a thing as mindless repetition. It leads nowhere special. Pick a life strategy that rewards more than novelty, more than mindless repetition. Engage a process to continually build new skills, continually expand your capabilities. Every skill you acquire doubles your chance of success. Know that your skills don’t have to be world-class, but they do need to be good. World-class is great, but even good puts you way ahead of the pack. Get ahead of the pack. Get coachable. – We’ve been working on a new website! Whenever we read these posts, we’re inspired to write our own private thoughts. Now you can write your own private thoughts at 130words.com. It’s easy. It’s private…